Cogitation..

We can only bottle it all up till one day, that bottle crack open & what we tried to hold in for so long, will eventually explode into a sea of raging fire..

The Narcissistic Family Tree..

This is so true..

And from where I see it, usually it's the ones favoured & seen as the golden child/inlaw who will never be there for their parents/inlaw; pushing the duties & responsibilities away.

Often those who are the scapegoats & the least favored who will be there for them in the face of difficult times.

Yet they never realise & appreciate..

I Prefer Animals Over Most Humans..

I prefer to be in the company of animals than most humans becoz it's obvious that there are more peaceful animals than people in this world we live in.

Animals are created "as it is". They don't know the meaning of lying, giving excuses, betraying, backstabbing; not even living a life filled with hypocrisy as they only feel & understand emotions.

We humans are the ones messing ourselves up, giving each other a reason to hold grudges & hate, then blame one another for the problems we ourselves create.

I'm No Willy Wonka..

I'm no WILLY WONKA, I'm LILY BAKAR, not BAKER; my mouth is not a BAKERY.

I don't sugarcoat stuff, pretend to like & accept everything you do & then later on find ways & excuses to get rid of you & let you be.

Unlike some, I wasn't brought up that way.

Alhamdulillah, For Blessing Me With Such Good Children..

My eldest & my middle.. My littlest one no need to say lah; always wanna menyelit with Ummi & Baba. 🤭

It's my eldest & my middle that I wanna post about.. 🙃

Though we live in a 4rm HDB apartment (3 rooms + 1 common area which consists of living room, dining area & kitchen), both have been sharing the same bedroom even before they reach puberty; eversince kindergarten.

As a parent, I understand at times, with their current age, they need the privacy coz both are reaching the stage of becoming young adults. At times it could be quite frustrating for them not to be able to get separate rooms for themselves. The fact that 1 is aging into a young man while the other into a young lady. Things would be easier if both born of the same gender.

However, the situation that we're facing doesn't give them the freedom of access to that. And again, as a parent, I understand how it feels like to be waking up in the early morning, gotta wait for each other's turn in getting ready for school or for an occasion or just to unwind in their own thoughts alone in the room after a tiring day.

Yes, it seems unfair to them. Come to think of it, it seems unfair to us as well but I always remind them that for a child their age, their feelings, mentality & how they think of 'others first before their own', surpass those much older than them. They are willing to sacrifice what others are not able to commit in a long run, well maybe even till they graduate from school & each have a boyfriend or girlfriend of their own. By then, even my littlest won't be that small anymore to menyelit with his Ummi & Baba. 

I am proud to say that I am blessed to have them as my children & even though at times, it pisses & breaks me inside having to swallow the things that are beyond our control, I am glad my children are able to accept & understand that.

Given the situation they are facing, not many will be able to do what they do, willingly. Whatever that is happening around them, may they see & learn from it. Most importantly, may they all be a better version of us..

They may not be able to see the blessings bestowed upon them for their sacrifices, InshaAllah in time to come, they will.. ❤

Salam Jumuah Mubarakah.. 🌹

What separates us from them & others?

We are just ordinary individuals who have developed belief in ourselves & in what we do. We keep telling ourselves that we are not better than them & others, but instead, we are just different than them & others in a way that is better.

This is what separates us from them & others. This is what makes us successful in the sight of Allah & it does not even require the brightest of intellect to grasp this.

My penny worth of thought..

All That Glitters Is Not Gold..

Exactly..

But only a handful of human souls can comprehend this.