Allah Maha Mengetahui, The All-Knowing...

Jika kau merasa lelah dan tak berdaya dari usaha yang sepertinya sia2,
Allah s.w.t tahu betapa keras engkau sudah berusaha...

Ketika kau sudah menangis sekian lama dan hatimu masih terasa pedih,
Allah s.w.t sudah menghitung air matamu...

Jika kau fikir bahawa hidupmu sedang menunggu sesuatu dan waktu terasa berlalu begitu saja,
Allah s.w.t sedang menunggu bersama denganmu...

Ketika kau merasa sendirian dan teman2mu terlalu sibuk untuk menalipon,
Allah s.w.t selalu berada disampingmu...

Ketika kau fikir bahawa kau sudah mencuba segalanya dan tidak tahu hendak berbuat apa lagi,
Allah s.w.t punya jawapannya...

Ketika segala sesuatu menjadi tidak masuk akal dan kau merasa tertekan,
Allah s.w.t dapat menenangkanmu...

Jika tiba2 kau dapat melihat jejak2 harapan,
Allah s.w.t sedang berbisik padamu...

Ketika segala sesuatu berjalan lancar dan kau merasa ingin mengucap syukur,
Allah s.w.t telah memberkatimu...

Ketika sesuatu yang indah terjadi dan kau dipenuhi ketakjuban,
Allah s.w.t telah tersenyum padamu...

Ketika kau miliki tujuan untuk dipenuhi dan mimpi untuk digenapi,
Allah s.w.t sudah membuka matamu dan memanggilmu dengan namamu...

Ingat bahawa dimanapun kau atau kemanapun kau menghadap,
ALLAH SWT TAHU...

Therefore we should never feel lonely and weak...

Wanita, Akal Senipis Rambutnya...

Jangankan lelaki biasa, Nabi pun terase sunyi tanpa wanita...
Tanpa mereka, fikiran dan perasaan lelaki akan resah,
Masih mencari walau ada segalanya...

Apa yang tiada dalam Syurga?
Namun Adam tetap rindukan Hawa...

Dijadikan wanita daripada tulang rusuk yang bengkok untuk diluruskan oleh lelaki...
Tetapi seandainya lelaki itu sendiri tidak lurus,
Mana mungkin kayu yang bengkok akan menghasilkan bayang yang lurus?

Luruskan wanita dengan jalan yang ditunjukkan oleh Allah S.W.T
Didiklah mereka dengan panduan dariNya...

Janganlah cuba menjinakkan mereka dengan harta,
Kerana nantinya mereka akan semakin liar...
Jangan hiburkan mereka dengan kecantikkan,
Kerana nantinya mereka akan semakin derita...

Kenalkan mereka kepada Allah, Zat yang paling kekal...
Di situlah punca kekuatan dunia!!

Akal senipis rambutnya, tebalkan ia dengan ilmu...
Hati serapuh kaca, kuatkan ia dengan iman...
Perasaan selembut sutera, hiasilah ia dengan akhlak...

Suburkanlah ia kerana dari situlah nantinya mereka akan melihat nilaian dan keadilan Tuhan...
Bisikkan ke telinga mereka bahawa kelembutan bukan bererti satu kelemahan...
Ia bukan diskriminasi Tuhan,
Sebaliknya di situlah kasih dan sayang Tuhan...

Wanita lupa yang hakikat kejadiannya,
Pasti tidak akan terhibur dan menghiburkan,
Tanpa iman, ilmu dan akhlak...
Mereka tidak akan lurus,
Bahkan semakin membengkok...

Itulah akibatnya andai wanita tidak kenal Tuhannya...
Bila wanita menjadi derhaka,
Pasti dunia lelaki akan menjadi huru-hara...

Lelaki pula janganlah mengharapkan ketaatan semata-mata, tapi binalah kepimpinan...
Jinakkanlah dirimu kepada Allah, nescaya akan jinaklah segala-galanya di bawah pimpinanmu...

Janganlah mengharapkan isteri semulia Fatimah Az-Zahrah,
Andai dirimu tidak sehebat Saidina Ali Karamallahuwajhah...

Masya'allah!! This Is Cool...

I received this photo via e-mail from one of my aunt... Her friend's cousin from KL sent this e-mail of her newborn kitten (born in June 2009) when she noticed that there was something unique about her little pet... Can you guys see the word "Allah" in Arabic on the kittens fur? A nice one indeed...

Bonus Di Bulan Ramadhan... Yahoo!!

Ramadhan... Oh Ramadhan...

As I look searchingly into the sky,

I look for a sign from Allah the most high...

People think I'm crazy sitting in this cold,

But I quest for something more precious than gold...

For mankind this sign represents something great,

but for the rejected one, it fills him with hate...

Suddenly out of the darkness the moon does appear,

the whole world rejoices 'Ramadhan is here"...

During Ramadhan the shaytan is in chains,

and Allah's mercy for a month reigns...

The doors of heaven are open wide,

begging for mankind to enter and abide...

So often in Hadith we are reminded and told,

that rewards are multiplied by many a fold...

In this month do good deeds and read Quran,

spend your time wisely and learn Islam...

After all these years I have made up my mind,

the right path and salvation I wish to find...

To Allah's will I will surrender at last,

Insya'allah, Allah will forgive my past...

Forgive-all those sins too good it sounds,

but Allah's mercy knows no bounds...

With sins stacked like mountains so high,

will be forgiven within a blink of an eye...

This Ramadhan my heart and soul are alive,

ready to change and ready to strive,

No more will the shaytan hold me back,

in the worship of my Lord nothing will lack...

Together lets make the decision to change,

our priorities in this life lets re-arrange...

This life on Earth is short and fast,

but the life in the hereafter will forever last...

Ironically this life for us holds much value,

when the next life is the one thats true...

To make effort on Dunya we never tire,

but will it take us to paradise or hell fire?

This month will give a fresh perspective,

on the way we ought to and the way we live...

With Zikr and prayer lets increase our Iman,

Join me and together lets celebrate Ramadhan...

With Ramadhan here the changes begin,

Firstly walking away from a life of sin...

The shackles of sin I have worn so long,

Now caste away to the righteous I belong...

The seeker finds and mercy does shower,

On lail-a-tul Qadr the night of Power...

The Quran came down on this blessed night,

A guidance for mankind an illuminating light...

From the depth of your Soul please pray,

as Duas are accepted and sins wiped away...

Ask with a clean heart is all Allah requires,

and ask for whatever good the soul desires...

Listen to the Quran every night in Tarawih...

Ah...

Allah's words what spiritual ecstasy,

It cools your heart and calms your soul...

So with crystal clear vision perceive your goal,

For this goodness to last there is a price,

For the Deen of truth you need sacrifice,

To toss aside Dunya you hold so dear...

Nothing but Allah will you ever fear...

Tossing and turning through every night,

the demon called Dunya you need to fight...

the demon called nafs you need to tame,

because struggling to surrender is your ultimate aim...

Itikaf is a another gift that Allah sent,

The last ten days in His path spent...

in the Mosque in the presence of your Lord,

doing Zikr, Salawat or Solat at your own accord...

These days to Allah you must also dedicate,

then disbelief and ignorance you will hate...

The Quran and Sunnah will be your guide,

Only then faith in your heart will reside...

Beginning this Ramadhan lets make amends,

Study and practice until our life ends...

Everything but our deeds we leave behind,

this is the truth to which we were blind...

Our cars, wealth and house on earth will stay,

our actions are the companions on that day...

when your breath expires so does hope,

so hold on firmly to Allah's rope...

There is great wisdom in this rhyme,

Its dedicated to me before its my time...

for these changes my soul does yearn,

this Ramadhan insya'allah its my turn...

Road Signs In India...

The Indians are good at humour...!! A brilliantly said... (^_^)

Serious Types of Fitnah...

The word fitnah includes meanings like deviation, confusion of the mind, differing, falling for something, sinning, disbelief, dazzling beauty, property and children, testing someone, torture, misfortune, or trouble.

In nearly sixty verses of the Qur'an, we find either this word or another word that is derived from the same root. While even a disagreement between two people can be called fitnah, acts aiming to spread disbelief, turning people from the path of Allah the Almighty, and causing terror in society are also categorized as fitnah. Making two people dislike each other is fitnah and this is an abhorrent sin; but there is also another type of fitnah that is so bad that it invokes divine wrath. It cannot be regarded as equal to other types of fitnah, for it can instantly make someone fall into a pit of Hellfire and end their happiness in both worlds.

Therefore, in order not to face such a terrible end, we need to keep away from even the pettiest kind of fitnah and eliminate the words and actions that may lead to it from the very beginning before they become great crimes.

The Qur'an states that {Fitnah is worse than killing…}. (Al-Baqarah 2:191) That is to say, even if various kinds of fitnah are not like killing, there is a type of fitnah that is even worse than murder. For instance, trying to spread disbelief through brute force, alienating Muslims from their values, and making younger generations strangers to their spiritual values, thereby throwing them into a terrible torment in both worlds, are all grave offenses that are far more dangerous than murdering an innocent person.

In some cases of murder, there is both fitnah and murder intermingled. For example, somebody assassinates an important figure and then disappears. After that, an innocent person or a group is blamed for that murder. In this way, the situation becomes a blood feud. Both the supporters of the victim and the slandered group suffer. Thus, the murder is not limited to a single event; it is followed by mutual accusations and it becomes a great fitnah. Finally, an unstoppable chain of fitnahs is ignited, and results in a condition of anarchy where thousands of murders are committed.

Unfortunately, this kind of fitnah has taken place in the history of Islam and such acts have yielded far worse results than one single murder. For instance, the assassination of the second Caliph, `Umar ibn Al-Khattab, was not just a simple murder; even more so since, as Hudhaifah Al-Yamani reported: `Umar was a locked door against fitnah. After his martyrdom, that door was opened; more correctly, it was broken down. Here we will examine this event in more detail.

One day, `Umar ibn Al-Khattab asked Hudhaifah about the words of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) describing fitnah that surges like the waves of the sea. Hudhaifah answered: "O Commander of the believers, there is no harm on you from this fitnah; for there is a locked door between it and you." When `Umar asked: "Is that door going to open or be broken down?" Hudhaifah answered: "It is going to be broken down." `Umar then commented: "Then it will not be locked again until the end of the world." When one of his friends asked about that door, Hudhaifah's answer was: "That door is `Umar himself."

In this respect, the assassination of `Umar cannot be taken as an ordinary murder; it was the breaking down of the door that blocked fitnah, and the opening of the way for fitnah to continue until the end of the world. The Qur'an mentions the condition of the person who murders an innocent person, stating that he will stay in Hellfire forever. Therefore, this must also encompass murderers like Umar's assassin.

Ibn `Abbas and some of the imams from the generation following the Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) inferred from the following verse that somebody who commits murder will suffer eternal punishment in Hellfire:

{Whoever kills a believer intentionally, his recompense (in the Hereafter) is Hellfire, therein to abide; and Allah has utterly condemned him, excluded him from His mercy, and prepared for him a tremendous punishment} (An-Nisaa’ 4:93)

Some interpreters of the Qur'an have commented differently: In the same way that a murderer deserves to be executed in return for the crime he committed, the same punishment must be given to the person who killed all mankind. There is no greater punishment to be given. Likewise, as the punishment of the murderer of a single person is eternal Hellfire, the punishment of the person who has murdered all mankind must be the same. Therefore, a person who has murdered a single person is like the one who has murdered all mankind.

The divine statement: {Assuredly Allah does not forgive that partners be associated with Him; less than that He forgives to whomever He wills} (An-Nisaa' 4:48) limits the meaning of the verse that was mentioned above. However, when we look at the whole issue, we see that even if it is not true that every murderer will stay in Hellfire forever, there is a type of murder that the person who commits it will suffer eternal torment.

Hence, as there are degrees of sins, like fitnah, murder too has different degrees as an offense. These degrees depend on the identity and status of the victim, as well as the results it will incur. Regardless of who the victim is, murder is a grave crime, but assassinating the commander of an army or the head of a state is not the same as killing an ordinary citizen in terms of the chain of events that follow. Again, a murder committed in the Sacred Mosque in Makkah where it is even forbidden to kill an insect or pick tree leaves will not be equal to a murder that is committed elsewhere.

For this reason, Ibn `Abbas considered killing a prophet or a leader of the believers as equal to killing all mankind. Therefore, those who execute a person whose fate is connected with that of a nation, will have issued a decree of execution for the entire nation. Those who poison a man of action who devoted himself to the salvation of all mankind can be considered to have poisoned the entire nation. We can even say that they have poisoned Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and his Companions. This is such a great atrocity that even if those who commit it are believers, they can never find their way to Paradise unless they are forgiven by all mankind.

In conclusion, every kind of unjust murder is a great sin; but we can talk about different degrees, depending on the time, place and the identity and status of the victim.

By Fethullah Gulen
Turkish Muslim Intellectual

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Something triggers me to put up this useful article in my blog...

Ape agak nyer perasaan mereka yg tergamak memfitnah dan menganiayakan orang lain termasok ahli keluarge mereka sendiri? Kepuasan? Satisfaction? Is that what they are looking for? What do they want and what are they trying to proof? Aren't their past sins not enough for them? Tak takot dose la tu agak nyer... Nak mintak ditambahkan lebih banyak dose...

To me, they're just a bunch of "chicken shit" who couldn't even find a positive way to solve their problems...

Hubby and I, we always remind each other this, "Insya'allah Baba/Ummi, Allah Is Great!! Sooner or later, justice will prevail... Allah tak akan menghampekan mereka yang telah dianiaya dan difitnah... The truth will eventually come out one day..."

Orang pengecot jer yang suke berdolak-dalek, berbual belit dan pandai main selit2... pfft...

A wonderful info to be shared anyway... Good nite peepz...

Tagged Again!! But This Time By Sis Surie... Woo hoo!!

I received a message from Sis Surie asking me to go get a TAG in her blog.

To Sis Surie: THANK YOU KAK for the tag... Mmmmmmuah!! So the very the touching coz you still have ME in mind... Maceh Kak... Akan ku jawab soalan2 yang diberikan dari mu kepade ku... Tempek jgn tak tempek!! hee hee...

So let's begin this tag about ME... =)

My Name...

• Suhaily Binte Abu Bakar

My Nickname...

• Lily Ash Burn (Lily - Short form for "SUHAILY", Ash - An english translation for the malay word "ABU" and Burn - An english translation for the malay word "BAKAR") - [This nickname is commercially used in the internet...]
• Kakak (A malay word meaning "Elder Sister" in english) - [Used by my parents, siblings and relatives from the maternal side of the family...]
• Lily - [Used by my maternal grandma (Nenek Habsah), friends, colleagues, bosses and relatives from the paternal side of the family...]
• Ummi - [Used by my hubby and babies...]
• Leili - [Used by my one and only late grandma (Arwah Nenek Esah) & my one and only auntie (Mak Ani), both from the paternal side of the family... Mak Ani resembles my Arwah Nenek Esah in many ways including her looks... They will always be in my prayers... Tiap kali kalau aku pandang muke Mak Ani, aku slalu teringatkan arwah nenek. I love them both so much...]
• Sis - [Muz, the only sister-in-law who calls me by this nickname and most of my fellow blogfriends too!!]
• Aunty Lily - [Used by all my nephews and nieces...]
• Mak Busu - [Only nephew Khai calls me by this nickname...]

My Date of Birth...

• July 31st 1981 - [One of the last babies born in the month of July...]

My Place of Birth...

• Toa Payoh Hospital, Singapore - [Now a welfare home for the Aged Sick...]

My Status...

• One and only wife - [Insya'allah, amin... Coz seriously, aku ni jenis tak rela dimadukan... I mean, sape yang suke "share-share" suami dengan orang lain? Betol tak?]
• One and only eldest daughter in the family - [I've 2 siblings and both are boys... Such a bore sometimes when there's no sister to play around and share my problems with...]
• The 4th youngest daughter/sister in-law - [Hubby's the youngest in his family...]
• One and only Ummi - [Supermommy to 2 little adorable toddlers...]
• An Aunty - [To all my nieces and nephews...]

My Hobbies...

• Surfing the internet for wonderful infos and tips...
• Blogging...
• Spending time with my hubby and 2 babies...
• Doing laundry and ironing...
• I got this "thing" for Brisk-Walking nowadays...
• Kite-Flying with my family...

My Favourite Food...

• Laksa...
• Steamed Fish...
• Hotplate Beancurd...
• Spaghetti and Pastas...
• Sushi...
• Fried Rice...
• Stir Fried Vegetables [Chinese Style]...

My Favourite Drinks...

• Jasmine Green Tea...
• Chamomile Mint Tea...
• Coffee...
• Hot Cocoa...

My Ambition...

• To be a good Muslim wife for my hubby...
• To be a good role model for my children and my children's children, so on and so forth...
• To have a great bond between my in-laws...
• To be a filial daughter and daughter in-law...
• To excel in my little online business...
• And insya'allah, who knows to have another baby one day... [Aku nak sangat2 anak kembar... hee hee...]
• And most importantly, to be a humble Muslimah who never fails to think of Allah wherever she may be... [Insya'allah, amin to all of the above...]

My Unforgettable Horrid Memories...

• Seriously, I hate wrecking up the past coz it'll only brings sadness, hatred and grieve... Concentrate with what I have right now and just be thankful with it... Alhamdulillah...

My Unforgettable Sweet Memories...

• Becoming a wife to my hubby whom I've known since the age of 16... [Memang pelbagai rintangan dan dugaan yang banyak kami lalui bersame... Touching memories tu pon memang la ade...]
• The moment when Allah swt mengangkat darjat ku menjadi seorang ibu sekaligus sebagai salah seorang wali kepade anak2 ku...
• Sweet surprises by hubby... [Suamiku ni memang romantic orang nyer... Muke je nampak garang... hee hee...]

Things That Pleases Me...

• My family...
• Blogging...
• Shopping...
• Spending time with people who pleases me...

Things That I Dislike...

• Being force to do things that I've no keen interest in...
• When there are people who think that they are good at giving advice to others but they themselves aren't that good enough... [Cakap besar, bersifat bongkak dan riak lagi ade... Memang aku tak suke org mcm ni... Slalu nye aku tak kan berbual banyak dgn org mcm ni... Aku akan DIAM...]
• When there are people who love spreading rumors or stories about me and my family... [Org mcm ni kan, memang tak de keje... Padehal keje kat ruma bertimbon2 blom abes dibuat nyer...]
• To be in crowded places... [Aku mcm rimas bile berade di tempat yang penoh sesak dgn ramai org...]
• Dirty toilets... [Seriously la kan, mcmane pon aku prefer bilek air kat rumah aku atau tandas Masjid la... Slalu nye kan, aku memang tak suke pakai tandas awam... You can ask my hubby... He knows me very well...]
• Animal Abuse... [Memang aku tak suke manusia yang suke mendera binatang... Dorang la antare manusia yang paling kejam di dunia ni...]
• Child Abuse... [Ni pon lagi satu aku tak suke... Memang orang yang mendera kanak2 ni tk ade hati perot langsong...]
• Women and Men (be it single or married) who flirt around looking for cheap attention & publicity from the opposite sex... [Ni lagi aku tak suke... Allah ta'ala sahaje yang tahu ape yang ade di dalam kandongan isi hati ku whenever this particular subject is mention...]

Am I Satisfied With What I Have?

• Alhamdulillah, I'm happy, thankful, grateful and satisfied with everything that Allah has given to me...

My Hopes...

• Is for Allah swt to always shine His grace and His light to my family & to Muslims all over the world...
• Is for Allah swt to provide me and my family with happiness in "Dunia" & also in "Akhirat"...
• Is for Allah swt to give me and my family a strong health & the excellence of "Iman" to face the pressure of this world...
• May Allah swt stop all these wars, misunderstanding between countries and tribes that's been happening around the world...
• May there soon be peace in this world one day... Insya'allah, amin... =)

The People That I'm Gonna Tag...

• Everyone who knows me, be it my fellow blogfriends, affiliates, and to those of you who's been following and reading my blog... Yang mane ade blog sendiri la OK...

A Shout Out For My Dearest Cousin Lala @ Saurah Sayuti...

A Birthday Poem From Me To You...

Each year our birthday forces us to grow,

Into the person whom we have yet to know...

With circumstances that hopefully have made us wise,

When we learn from our multitude of mistakes and tries...

To take a long look at these years gone past,

To really reflect on how time travels fast,

To know that every day that each of us lives,

Is a great gift from The Almighty that He lovingly gives...

So as you celebrate another passing year again,

On this day that marks the beginning of the moment when,

You entered this world for a purposeful plan...

Just remember your worth doesn’t come from man...

Your worth comes from our Creator who made you unique...

Who gave you knowledge and words to speak...

Who doesn’t care about a past success or failure,

But only cares about your heart that His presence makes pure...

False paths, lost dreams, wrong choices, it’s true...

Fills your past as well as everyone else’s, too...

There may be those lost memories that hinder your day,

But with The Almighty in your mind the regrets soon melt away...

Cherish this day and who you’re growing to be...

This special person that all of us already see...

Embrace this coming year and live each day anew,

By becoming the excellent one The Almighty created in you...

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Happy 19th Birthday Dearest Cuzzie!! Woo hoo!! A year older and a year wiser... Alhamdulillah...

Smoge dipanjangkan umor dan dimurahkan rezki... Insya'allah, amin... Although we seldom meet due to our busy schedules; me with my commitments and you with yours, I'm sure we're close in each other's heart... Love you little sister... Mmmmmmuah!!

I've got a little something for you... Insya'allah we'll arrange a meet up soon K?

=)

Love,

Your Cousin Lily...

I've Been Tagged By Ummi Hanani...!!

Woo hoo!! I've been tagged!! I've been tagged!! Betape suke nye saye bile saye di-tagged... Alalalalala... So the very the touching... (^_^)

A big THANK YOU to Ummi Hanani kerane sudi tag blog saye yang tak sebrape ni... hee hee...

The RULES:-

1. You must thank the person who gave you the award. [DONE]
2. Copy the logo and place it in your blog. [DONE]
3. Link to the person who has nominated you for the award. [UMMI HANANI]
4. Name 7 things about yourself that people might find interesting.

Foooh!! Ade siket nyer challenging la ni part. Mcmane eh? OK, tak per... I'll try... Here goes...

1. I love BLOGGING... (I blog whenever and whatever I want... MY LIFE - MY THOUGHTS - MY SAY... Get it?)
2. I love DOING FACIAL FOR MY HUBBY... (hee... hee... My hubby loves it when I pampered him with facial wash and massage... Syiok-nesssss!!)
3. I love HAVING A WONDERFUL PICNIC BY THE BEACH WITH MY FAMILY... (I have this "thing" for "THE SUN, THE SAND and THE SEA...")
4. I have a BLOGSHOP... (Feel free to visit my clothing line @ http://femininelymodish-blogshop.blogspot.com/)
5. I know how to COOK WESTERN FOOD MORE THAN OUR ASIAN FOOD... (I'm a bit blurrr when it comes to mixing up spices and herbs in Asian Cooking... Ni part aku siang2 da declare kat Mak Mentua aku... Laok Paok Melayu aku tak reti sangat... hee hee...)
6. I love BAKING... (I find baking way much more easier then cooking...)
7. I hate having A PAIR OF PANDA LOOKING EYES... (Seriously, can somebody tell me how on earth am I suppose to get rid of these black eye patch around my eyes...!!! Urrrrghhhhh!!)

Last but not least Rule No. 7,

Nominate 7 other Kreativ Bloggers. Post links to the 7 bloggers that you nominate. Leave comments on each of the blogs to let them know that they have been nominated.

OK, here goes...

1. Si Petite
2. World's Greatest Mom
3. Shopaholic Mama
4. Ape Cite Ari Ni..!?
5. Moralle
6. O Verdadeiro Sentido Do Hijab
7. Diary UmmiHanani (Bole la yer, Ummi Hanani diberikan award ni sekali lagi...)

To all of the above whom I mentioned, kindly collect your award from my blog, yes? =)

Sayangi Dan Bersyukurlah Dengan Kehadiran Seorang Yang Bergelar Suami...

"Love is in the air..."

SUATU PERJALANAN

"Tanggungjawab suami selain memberi nafkah dan mencari rezeki, jangan lupa bimbing anak dan isteri. Kalau suatu hari berlaku selisih faham, jangan cepat menuding jari. Duduk berbincang dan cari kata sepakat. Tiada bumi tak ditimpa hujan...", teringat pesan ayah di suatu petang.

"Ayah dulu bila arwah mak mula bising bersuara, ayah tak balas dengan kata-kata. Ayah keluar hidupkan motor, pergi ke Behrang cari Mee Goreng Mamak. Bila sampai saja di rumah, ayah hulur pada arwah mak. Muka yang tadi masam terus tersenyum riang. Suami kena tahu kesukaan isteri, supaya mudah memujuk hati..", ayah menambah berkongsi pengalaman selama 41 tahun bersama arwah mak.

Persefahaman antara suami dan isteri bukan boleh dicapai sehari dua. Ia merupakan satu perjalanan sepanjang usia perkahwinan. Cabaran dan dugaan pastinya tidak sama, di awal, pertengahan dan di hujungnya.

Justeru, sikap saling memberi dan menerima sangat perlu dipupuk dan dibaja. Memberi kelebihan diri untuk saling melengkapi. Menerima kekurangan untuk saling menginsafi, suami mahu pun isteri bukanlah manusia sempurna.

SILAP ISTERI

Kesilapan isteri bermula apabila melupakan kebaikan suami kerana benci dengan sikapnya yang tidak menyenangkan hati. Silap menjadi dosa andai keistimewaan suami orang yang sering dibicara.

Keburukkan suami dijaja, atas alasan minta nasihat rumahtangga. Tapi apa maknanya kalau semua orang bercerita?

Rasulullah SAW pernah mengingatkan melalui sabdanya yang bermaksud:

"Wahai kaum wanita, aku lihat kamu ini lebih banyak di neraka..."

Seorang wanita lalu bangun bertanya, "Apakah yang menyebabkan yang demikian? Adakah sebab kami ini kufur?"

Rasulullah SAW menjawab, "Tidak. Bukan begitu. Tetapi ada dua tabiat kamu yang tidak elok yang boleh menjerumuskan kamu kedalam neraka:

1. Kamu banyak mengutuk atau menyumpah

2. Kamu kufurkan kebaikan suami..."

Ada kalanya, isteri merajuk tanpa sepatah kata. Suami yang tak tahu menahu, terus buat biasa. Muka isteri semakin kelat, hilang serinya. Menahan ego diri, ingin dipujuk dengan kata cinta, namun tidak berbicara dan bersemuka. Suami tertanya-tanya sendiri, akhirnya terasa hati. Salah siapa agaknya, bila masing-masing memendam rasa. Kasih mula bertukar marah. Marah marak menyala benci.

YANG LEBIH, YANG KURANG

"Awak beruntung ye, dapat suami yang memahami. Tak seperti saya. Hari-hari menjeruk rasa...", luah seorang teman yang baru beroleh cahaya mata.

"Suami saya juga ada kurangnya. Tapi kelebihannya lebih banyak untuk saya perkatakan. Saya pun isteri yang ada salah dan silap", jawab saya supaya dia buka mata.

"Ada suami yang tak pandai urusan rumah tangga, namun dia bijak berjenaka, meriah suasana. Ada suami yang jarang menghadiahkan bunga, tapi selalu membelanja anak dan isteri dengan makanan istimewa. Dan ramai juga suami yang tidak reti memujuk, bermain kata. Tapi mudah bertoleransi bila diminta bantu sini dan sana . Ketepikan kekurangannya dan ambil kelebihan. Pasti awak juga akan rasa bertuah beroleh suami seperti dia...", pujuk saya lagi. Moga-moga dia berubah hati. Kembali ' memandang tinggi ' kehadiran seorang suami.

ENGKAU TERBAIK UNTUKKU

"Sedangkan lidah lagi tergigit, apa pula suami isteri, buang yang keruh, ambil yang jernih. Baru teguh peribadi..."

Wahai teman bergelar isteri, mari kita muhasabah diri. Pohon keampunan dari Ilahi agar cinta Nya bersemi kembali. Banyakkan istighfar dan juga sedekah, kerana janji Allah setiap kebaikan menghapus kejahatan.

Susunkan jemari pintalah kemaafan dari lelaki bernama suami. Jangan bertangguh dan jangan lengah. Bimbang maaf tiada serinya lagi.

Pandang wajahnya, lihat matanya. Bisikkan di sanubari, "Terima kasih, suamiku. Engkau terbaik untuk diri ini..."

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I love this article a lot!! Something to share about... Much love and thanks to Sis Ummi Hanani for sharing this wonderful info...

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What if your husband is a womanizer, a gambler, an abuser or even a drunkard? What are you going to do? And how are you gonna face it? Would you still agree with the above article?

There are those who da dapat suami yang baik, pandai jage keperluan harian anak2 dan isteri, tapi si isteri pulak buat hal... There are those who have such wonderful wives (lawa pulak tu) tapi main kayu tige... Dan macam2 lagi la... I mean, ialah mule2 baru kenal sume nye OK tapi lame kelamaan, some husbands (or even wives) tends to change in becoming what their partners don't expect them to be...

I always seek for Allah's protection to avoid all these mishaps from happening in my family... I've seen and heard a lot of stuffs happening to my friends or even relatives and how painful it is for them to face the truth... One of the topics that hubby and I, usually discussed about is this... We learned from it and mengambil issues like this sebagai suatu iktibar buat kami, suami isteri... =)

Occupational First Aid Course...

July 22nd till 24th... My colleagues and I we had to attend a 3 day OFA Course...

Took loads of pictures and the whole class was such a sport that we didn't even get bored to the entire course!! Well the only thing that's a bit troublesome was the written and practical examination. I mean, we've to study and memorise everything that we learned... Oh! There's CPR too!! 1 and 2 and 3 and 4 and 5!! 1 and 2 and 3 and 4 and 10!!

I tell you, the examiner, she's so strict... Not a smile on her face la sei... huwaaaaargh!! If you failed, you'll have to re-take the exam all over again and if you passed, you'll be given a Certificate...

Me? Passed or failed? Alhamdulillah, I passed la... hee hee... And the lady examiner, she still won't smile even when the whole exam thingy was over and after I thanked her for passing me... sheeesh... Agak nye member kene PMS la tu...

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Some Photos Of Us That I Took Last Monday...

I've some photos that I took while we were having our early dinner at Bedok Seafood Restaurant and on our way to Giant Hypermarket... Bumped into cousin Shameir on the road...

To Shameir (if you're reading this): Seriously, the girl who's seating at the backseat of your car is so UNFRIENDLY, really. I tried smiling but she just shut her face away from me. Do I look like a freaking monster or something? Gosh! What a nice way of making friends... You go tell her that!! pfft...

My Singapore, My Country, My Home...

August 9th - Singapore's National Day 2009...

So we purposely drove all the way to the Old Parliament House to catch a glimpse of the National Day fireworks... The atmosphere there was "HAPPENING" la sei... Everyone were caught in the "red fever"... There were crowds wearing red almost everywhere in every corner of the place!! Even the Rizal family wore red... lol...

Everyone applauded and cheered as soon as the fireworks started... The view was spectacular and LOUD... Yes, loud... The noise scared my little babies so much that I had my little Asil covering both of his ears while little Asyura was heard crying at the top of her voice... But not to worry la, both their Ummi and Baba were there to comfort them... (^_^)

Happy 44th Birthday Singapore!! Woo hoo!! I'm proud to be a SINGAPOREAN...

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Happy 30th Birthday To My Dearest Baba...

{-Birthday Gift-}

There are things
I'd like to say to you my love on your special day:

I am forever thankful Allah sent you my way.

Like a gift from up above,
you showed me how it is to feel real love.

I know many mountains we've had to climb
and sometimes forever has seemed like a very long time.

Yes, we've endured our share of pain,
but together we have so much to gain.

Bigger mountains may lie ahead,
but together there is no hill we cannot tread.

So always remember my love for you,
and there is nothing together we cannot do.

I'll be here forever - my love is true.
The person beside me, that would be you

Love you lots Baba...

I hope you love the birthday cake that I bought for you... [Sori, I beli cake instant jer... Nak buat cake tapi kesuntokkan mase... Insya'allah, next year I buat OK...]

May Allah swt grant all your prayers, and may He protect you in sickness and also in health... Insya'allah... Amin...

Thank you for being there for babies and me...

Thru good and bad times, we'll always be together...

Insya'allah... Amin... =)

A Little Picnic At Marina Barrage...

Our last weekend was spent with a little picnic down at Marina Barrage...

We did a little kite flying... And the babies did a little swimming in the playing pool... Weather was fantastic, alhamdulillah... And dinner, as usual, was at Mak's Place (seriously, we are soooooo hook on Mak's Place!! The food there's SOOOOOO GOOOOOD!!)...

I love moments like this... Just us... Life is pretty much peaceful having my family around... Spending time with them creates a family bond between us... =)

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Hello!!

As Salam Peepz!!

Huwaaaaargh!! It's been nearly a week since I last updated my blog...

Busy! Busy! Busy! There's month-end closing la, my blogshop la plus attending to the needs of my family la... To top it all off, hubby's been working part-time in the evening for the past few days and I'm left at home to juggle with the babies plus everything... Gosh!! Penat jugak la sei... Tapi takpe, anggap la ni sume sebagai satu care aku bole kuros kan badan... ahahahaha!!

OK, I've so many photos that I've yet to upload... Birthday photos la, Picnic @ Marina Barrage photos la and oh! Photos from my First Aid Course!! I haven't even upload that one too!!

So, July 31st, 2009 was the day that I celebrated my birthday (Happy Birthday to me!!) A year older and a year wiser with more slashes of wrinkles on my face... lol... I was so touched and overwhelmed with sadness when, at exactly 12midnight on my birthday, hubby together with our babies sneaked up on me (who was busy ironing some clothes) with a birthday cake, and sang a cute "Happy Birthday" song... Nanges aku skejap sebab so touching sangat la... It turns out that hubby hid the cake outside our corridor coz he was afraid that if he hid it in the fridge, I might find out about it and it won't turned out to be a surprise after all...

And the story didn't end there... Just when I was about to go to bed, there was also another surprise from my parents... They got me another birthday cake and yes!! Another birthday song sang as well... And I had loads of phone calls and messages from family members and friends with regards to my birthday... I've my colleagues celebrating my birthday in the office... Macam malu la, da tua ganyot ni pon maseh jugak celebrate birthday... lol...

So what did I wish for or should I say, "pray and hope for" on my birthday? Lots of things... Only Allah knows... Nak elaborate kat blog ni pon macam terlalu panjang lebar sangat gitu... Insya'allah, di Akhirat nanti everyone would eventually know what is it that I actually prayed and hope for... Insya'allah, amin... =)

To EVERYONE who remembered my Birthday that falls on July 31st: I would like to say a big THANK YOU for taking your time, singing, wishing, greeting, blogging, calling or even sms-ing me on this day... I feel so touched, really... May Allah swt bless you and your family always... Jazakallahu Khayran... And I LOVE YOU GUYS!! mmmmmmmuah!!

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